When we were children, we had many incredible goals or dreams: some wanted to become doctors, some wanted to become dancers and some wanted to become astronauts to explore the vast galaxy. But as we grew up, we were taught to rationalize and get more realistic dreams and goals. Let me tell you this: Never give up on your goals and dreams, no matter how incredible and crazy they can be.
Have you ever felt empty? Have you ever felt like you did not have any purpose in life? Have you ever felt like you were nothing but an empty shell? If that is the case, this post should be able to help you.
“There are people in the world, who are just wrong, and then there are the masses of population that are right, or at the very least they lie in the veil of between. I on the other hand, do not belong to any group. I don’t exist. It’s not that I don’t have substance; I have a body like everyone else. I can feel the fire when it burns against my skin, the rain when it caresses my face and the breeze as it fingers my hair. I have all the senses that other people do. I am just empty, inside.”
― J.D. Stroube, Caged in Darkness
Whether they are introverts or extroverts, PEOPLE ARE NATURALLY DRAWN TO OTHER PEOPLE. The only ones who can disagree with me are those who decided to spend their lives in an isolated place, away from society — away from any human beings.
“It doesn’t seem like you’re living a life, it’s almost like you’re travelling on a train with the destination unknown.
You’re sitting on a seat near the window looking outside, imagining how things are there outside, how is it like to live in the houses that you pass by. And when you’re busy noticing the outside, you at times do not pay heed to your surroundings inside the coach.
And thus some passengers who got down at a station midway fail to capture your interest, or maybe it is because of your deviation of interest towards the outside. While at other stops new people get up, and you like their company, you share and you laugh.
But sooner or later they get down.
Because it’s your journey, you’re the traveler and they just accompany you for some distances.
And then, maybe when you reach your destination there will still be passengers in the train, passengers you’ve mingled with or passengers you hate, people who were there since the train had started or people who got in just before the last stoppage, and like it or not, they will get off the train with you, at your destination which also proved to be there destination.”
― Sanhita Baruah
It is summer and, for many, it is the period to relax and let go of the stress they accumulated overtime. But summer is not all about relaxing. For those who can enjoy vacations or a break, it is the perfect time to INCREASE YOUR KNOWLEDGE and to LEARN NEW SKILLS that could help you in your professional life.
“self-education will make you a fortune”
― Jim Rohn
“A teacher can kindle your mind and let you memorize information, but true education is often self-education.”
― Debasish Mridha
This is why I gathered five websites where you can learn something new for free, five websites that I use myself.
Do you try to reach perfection? If the answer is yes, then give up on that idea. Human beings are not able to reach perfection, and do you not think it would be boring if you became perfect? What would there be left to improve? But let me tell you one thing, there is no need to reach perfection in order to become a better person.
“If you look for perfection, you’ll never be content.”
― Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina
If you try to look for perfection, you will never be content because not only you will never be able to reach it but you will also only meet with frustration and disappointment. But there is no need to worry, because BECOMING A BETTER PERSON has nothing to do with BECOMING PERFECT. And in fact, those two notions are completely different.
Are you afraid of change? Are you stubborn? Would you close your ears if someone pointed out your flaws and told you to change? If you answered yes to at least 2 of the previous questions, then this article will hopefully help you change your mind.
Self-improvement cannot be achieved if you are not willing to be open to change. And the reason for that is simple: self-improvement is by definition a change. To improve yourself is to change something about yourself for the better. So in order to become a better person, you need to accept change in your life.
90% of children understand the concept of lying by age 4, 60% of adults can’t hold a conversation for 10 minutes without lying at least once (according to a 2002 study conducted by the University of Massachusetts) and approximately 40% of people lie on their resumes.
But in all honesty, everyone lies. “It is natural to lie.” This is what we tell ourselves because we normalized it and it became part of our everyday life. We do not just lie about big things such as corruption and backstabbing maneuvers, but also about smaller things. An example would be to tell your friends you watched Deadpool when in fact you did not, but you are just saying that because you do not want to be excluded from the group.
Do you fear the notion of “struggling”? Do you try to avoid any task or anything in general that would make you struggle? Let me tell you one thing: struggling is not something to be afraid of. In fact, you should be seeking this struggle.
First of all, let’s quickly define struggle. Struggle in our case means to be to be strenuously engaged with a problem, task, or undertaking / to have difficulty or make a strenuous effort doing something / to move or progress with difficulty (thank you The Free Dictionary). I would like you to pay close attention to four particular words used in the previous sentence: engaged, difficulty, effort and progress.
I have seen countless friends and classmates who wanted to change their lives, who wanted to find a passion, but they only met with failure. They were often confused as to why they could not succeed in anything they wanted to do, and they often belittled themselves. They often blamed themselves for being good-for-nothing. When they did so, I usually stop them and ask them one simple question: “Did you find out now why you keep failing?”
But this question usually confused them more. And when they asked me “No, did you?” I tell them “Yes. It’s because you don’t think highly enough of yourself. Your self esteem is really low.”
You would like to improve yourself, and that’s a good thing! But do you know where to start? I will tell you: To improve oneself, you need to understand the current situation you are in.
You need to step back and look at the overall picture of your life: what you have done up until now, what are the mistakes you have made, the regrets you have, the flaws you have, your good qualities, your skills, your personality, your social situation, your surrounding, etc.